tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post5181555221178352663..comments2023-06-14T06:46:23.844-05:00Comments on Savvy Working Gal: Why Your Spouse Hides Money?Savvyworkinggalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08159197609419858161noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-12680185848467710172016-03-27T13:48:49.928-05:002016-03-27T13:48:49.928-05:00Agreed. Good observations.Agreed. Good observations.Savvyworkinggalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159197609419858161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-37949482955565362062016-03-27T13:48:03.588-05:002016-03-27T13:48:03.588-05:00It probably was for the best. If you aren't o...It probably was for the best. If you aren't on the same page about money before you are married or early on in your marriage, I imagine money will always cause conflict.Savvyworkinggalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159197609419858161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-75608629946242256352016-03-27T13:46:32.666-05:002016-03-27T13:46:32.666-05:00You are right. Everyone is different, was raised ...You are right. Everyone is different, was raised differently etc. Perhaps I will rewrite this post someday from a different angle. Savvyworkinggalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159197609419858161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-35010439760719664642016-03-27T13:45:34.532-05:002016-03-27T13:45:34.532-05:00I enjoyed your money story. It is similar to mine...I enjoyed your money story. It is similar to mine - I am miserly in spending on myself too. DH spends on things he enjoys a bit more than me, but then he has more free time as well. It is great you are both on the same page money-wise. Agreed my friend and his wife should see a counselor.Savvyworkinggalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159197609419858161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-41412643228968878132016-03-21T17:59:27.092-05:002016-03-21T17:59:27.092-05:00If you ask me, this is never a money issue. It'...If you ask me, this is never a money issue. It's a relationship issue. <br /><br />In my experience, if a relationship reaches the stage where money is being hidden from partners for any reason, that's a red flag for its overall health, and a sign that one or both partners need to face some harsh decisions about the future of it. Anyone who feels the need to hide money form their spouse clearly isn't being improved by the relationship. If they make excuses as to why they don't want to help their partner become better with money, thus avoiding the need to hide it, then that in itself is them effectively throwing in the towel and saying "there's no hope". Richard at DIY Money Masteryhttp://www.diymoneymastery.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-88757315000405649652016-03-20T07:53:11.649-05:002016-03-20T07:53:11.649-05:00Ugh. I remember dating a guy I nearly married in s...Ugh. I remember dating a guy I nearly married in school and he had so much trouble talking about money with me - it made me incredibly nervous. It was just one of many reasons it was probably for the best when our engagement fell though. Mel @ brokeGIRLrichhttp://brokegirlrich.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-5111683498737795432016-03-15T21:05:39.796-05:002016-03-15T21:05:39.796-05:00Such a complicated issue! I imagine everyone has t...Such a complicated issue! I imagine everyone has their own reasons for hiding money...Midnight Cowgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01421913320445099664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-23800230166214758462016-03-14T10:01:43.795-05:002016-03-14T10:01:43.795-05:00This is such a complicated topic! Unfortunately, ...This is such a complicated topic! Unfortunately, it seems like one of those things that is inherited from our parents - either we follow in their paths or we rebel and do the exact opposite. My husband used to be a spender - always with a couple of hundred in his pocket and plenty more to spend. I am a saver. When we married, he asked me to take over the "house" money. We have always deposited most of our checks into the house account, and then he keeps a separate small account for his "walking around" money. I know that he also has a small savings account into which he squirrels a bit of extra, but he mostly spends it on gifts for me, so i cannot complain. I have never felt the need for a separate account, altho he has encouraged me to have one. I am miserly on clothing and stuff for myself, preferring to save whatever is extra each month for bit ticket items. We paid off our 30-year mortgage in 12 years, paid off all our credit cards and saved enough for a new car ... and then i retired. Fortunately, we are facing retirement on a pretty much cash basis, but it meant being very honest with each other about how to save (for me it's easy, and for him it's having his own account and not touching the house money). But, we had to work it out very early in our marriage. Your friend, above, needs to understand WHY his wife needs to spend money before they can really move forward together. A counselor might help with that part. <br /><br />Good post. webbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168174623602308906noreply@blogger.com