tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post6683548784534112140..comments2023-06-14T06:46:23.844-05:00Comments on Savvy Working Gal: How to Avoid Being Conned on a Dating SiteSavvyworkinggalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08159197609419858161noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-28239608292447919932013-10-25T01:10:11.405-05:002013-10-25T01:10:11.405-05:00These are really great tips. I am single and I do...These are really great tips. I am single and I do use online dating sites to meet new people. These tips are right on time for me and so on point. <br /><br />Thanks for linking up for #FlashbackFriday!!!Chasing Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07958034937629421135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-79100496834010944192013-10-21T16:06:37.158-05:002013-10-21T16:06:37.158-05:00Great heads up about warning signs to watch out fo...Great heads up about warning signs to watch out for when online dating. I've tried it a few times in my past and didn't have a good experience - I think like you've stated it is just so much harder to figure out if people are legit online. Unfortunately I've meet guys in person (not online) and they still turn out to be someone they claimed they were NOT. So, this advice you're giving really can apply to dating in general nowadays because you never can be too careful. Also, I've had to learn better how to "take things slow" so that I give myself enough time to get to know someone. In the past it's been hard for me because I'm someone who gets carried away by those initial emotions/sparks. Again, learning the hard way, I now make it a rule to be much more cautious when dating especially regarding letting the person into my private home space - the one place I should always feel safe. Great tip on meeting in a public place and letting a friend know where you are and who you are meeting with - something that seems so small but in the end can save your life!Cherisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10137464749153482787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-47309452250750633982012-09-25T20:38:00.501-05:002012-09-25T20:38:00.501-05:00People want to believe.People want to believe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-52354102517999113892012-01-21T14:27:57.610-06:002012-01-21T14:27:57.610-06:00Monica,
You were a smart lady not to fall for his ...Monica,<br />You were a smart lady not to fall for his charms. I totally agree a world traveler like your admirer presented himself to be, would have had a credit card or some other access to cash. Also, his son should have been required to be vaccinated for malaria before traveling to Africa. I know a student traveling to Morocco this spring who has already received her vaccination. This is scary stuff. I hope we are getting the word out there to be cautious.Savvyworkinggalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159197609419858161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-75324746482795022702012-01-18T10:20:06.159-06:002012-01-18T10:20:06.159-06:00OMG, this nearly happened to me which scared me of...OMG, this nearly happened to me which scared me off dating sites for good. Seemed like a nice guy. Said he was an antiques dealer who lived in my area but traveled to Africa a lot for his business. Seemed plausible but then everytime he wrote he happened to be overseas. Said he was a widow with a son who he was homeschooling. Okay, but I started feeling weird when he came on too strong. Then suddenly he says, his kid has contracted malaria and can I wire him $500 for medical bills, that he'd pay me back when he returned. Well, that did it. Any American worth his weight and traveling overseas, should have a credit card or, at least the wherewithal to ask their own bank to wire them the money. I immediately shut down my online dating account because it scared the heck out of me, how close I came to being conned. Lesson learned.monicastangledwebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311906301829091998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-59225933137188373262012-01-15T12:28:37.487-06:002012-01-15T12:28:37.487-06:00Ellie,
Thanks for writing this post, you’ve provid...Ellie,<br />Thanks for writing this post, you’ve provided some great tips on how to not be conned on a dating site. As I mentioned in our correspondence I am reading, “The Con” by James Munton and Jelita McLeod, which includes a chapter on a woman who was conned on a dating site. The conman in her story was from Oklahoma, but had been working overseas for several years (Cairo) and ultimately needed her to cash a money order so he could come visit her. She did so, wiring him the money. You know where this is going, once he had the money she never heard from him again. Never wire money to anyone you have never met. Once money is wired out of your account it is gone for good and can’t be retrieved. I would say rule #1 when using a dating site don’t consider anyone who is not currently living in your country. If he sounds like the perfect catch, tell him you will connect once he is back in the states. Also, the con man in the book was a devout Christian. Often scammers use Christianity as a method of seeming legitimate. If he seems too good to be true be wary. He also wanted her to keep their relationship a secret. Why? If he was so wonderful why couldn’t she tell all her friends?<br /><br />I do know a couple who met on a dating site and are now married, so good things can come from them you just have to be wary and trust your gut. <br /><br />Also be wary of someone who contacts you on Facebook. Another gal in the book was scammed by someone posing as a former classmate on her Facebook account.<br /><br />Webb,<br />Great plan. It is always a good idea to tell a friend or family member where you will be when meeting someone for the first time.Savvyworkinggalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159197609419858161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34866775.post-64900756213526972242012-01-10T17:27:33.495-06:002012-01-10T17:27:33.495-06:00Good ideas all. A friend (who just married her on...Good ideas all. A friend (who just married her online guy) also made arrangements for a girl friend to call her 30 minutes into a date. The friend would know where she was and they had an innocuous code for "I'm ok, and feel comfortable with this guy" and one for "come meet me NOW". While she never had to use the latter one, she did have a friend nearby who was prepared to come and "bump into" them and then leave with my friend - if she felt like anything was weird. It's not a bad plan.webbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168174623602308906noreply@blogger.com