Our current notion of success, one in which we drive ourselves into the ground, if not the grave – in which working to the point of exhaustion and burnout is considered a badge of honor – was put in place by men, in a workplace culture dominated by men.And:
Women are paying an even higher price than men for their participation in a work culture fueled by stress, sleep deprivation, and burnout.Instead of focusing on the two traditional metrics of success, she recommends adding a third metric. This third metric includes our well-being, our ability to draw on our intuition and inner wisdom, our sense of wonder and our capacity for compassion and giving.
Have your career goals changed over time?
Do you dream of leaning-back?
I find it interesting how as I've gotten older my goals and aspirations are leaning more towards the third metric. My twenties were all about making money and working as many hours as possible. In my thirties I returned to college, passed the CPA exam, found a new job and again worked long hours. In my forties, I began burning out and dreamed of vacations and early retirement. I started exercising and taking better care of myself to help combat chronic insomnia. Now that I'm over fifty I dream of mentoring and giving back. Instead of leaning-in to my career I long to lean back and have a more well-rounded life.
Finding the time to add this third metric - meditation, yoga, getting enough sleep, renewing ourselves and giving back - to my life can be challenging especially while working full-time and attempting to maintain this blog. (By the way I consider this blog part of my third metric). For me, the only way I can make this all work is to schedule everything. Cleaning my house, cooking, shopping, blogging, exercising, work meetings and deadlines, spending time with my family and friends – everything is scheduled. I am also someone who doesn’t work well under tight deadlines, so anything that upsets my schedule also upsets this third metric.
Another thing I’ve noticed as I’ve become more involved with social media I’ve been staying up later and sleeping less. I’ve even been known to bring my electronic devices to the dinner table much to my husband’s displeasure. The problem with social media is I’m never finished. I could always write one more comment or schedule one more tweet. It’s time I take a step back. I need to cut-back on my social media participation. My social media activity is now scheduled from 8:00 pm to 9:30 pm allowing me a half hour downtime before falling asleep.
This past week I read three blog posts from three different women about how their career goals have changed as they got older. All three wanted to lean back rather than lean into their career. One wanted to spend more time with her family, one wanted a different career from the one she's been working towards since she was sixteen, and the third wanted to spend more time giving back.